Guys, I need help, any trans girls that have already come out could please help me out with tips to do it or stories on how you did it?
I really want to come out and I want to do it in the best way possible please
Also, if you could reblog this and spread the word I will really appreciate it!
thank you all in advance
Mixed race trans women are the best human beings in the solar system/
On the off chance you are a unix geek perhaps I can explain it like this:
For the non-unixy the general rule of thumb in unixland is “silence is golden”, i.e. many things print nothing when successful. This tends to be confusing for new people as “what happened? did it work?” and yes, it doesn’t need to tell you anything if it all worked as it was supposed to.
So you run your internal gender_check and get nothing as a response:
Return code is zero, nothing is printed out, everything is all good, and you think “I have no idea what these people are talking about, there isn’t anything here.”. When a trans person runs their gender_check they get a slew of errors, a spewage of various issues that need to be addressed (I have bolded some parts to give you an idea):
system roles inproperly defined: gfp_mask=0x201da, order=0, oom_score_adj=0
systemrolesd cpuset=/ mems_allowed=0
Pid: 4503, comm: systemrolesd Tainted: P O 3.8.0-sabayon #
 ? cpuset_print_task_mems_allowed+0xa6/0xb2
 ? delayacct_end+0x77/0x82
 ? ___ratelimit+0xb7/0xd4
 ? has_ns_capability_noaudit+0x10/0x17
scsi 7:0:0:0: Phallus UMS 0001 PQ: 0 ANSI: 2
scsi 7:0:0:1: Direct-Access UMS 0001 PQ: 0 ANSI: 2
sr1: scsi-1 drive
sr 7:0:0:0: Attached scsi Phallus sr1
sr 7:0:0:0: Attached scsi generic Phallus sg2 type 5
sd 7:0:0:1: Attached scsi generic Phallus sg3 type 0
sd 7:0:0:1: [sdb] Attached Phallus
sd 7:0:0:1: [sdb] hardware not supported, using generic driver, partial support only
sd 7:0:0:1: [sdb] Write cache: enabled, read cache: enabled, doesn’t support DPO or FUA
UDP: short packet: From 184.108.40.206:53 1032/43 to 220.127.116.11:23117
UDP: short packet: From 18.104.22.168:53 1032/42 to 22.214.171.124:8326
UDP: bad checksum. From 126.96.36.199:18459 to 188.8.131.52:137 ulen 58
UDP: bad checksum. From 184.108.40.206:33265 to 220.127.116.11:161 ulen 51
UDP: bad checksum. From 18.104.22.168:32489 to 22.214.171.124:161 ulen 51
eth0: high packet loss from local network, packet size from bros out of spec
and so on…. and when we get this result we go “Holy shit! look at all that stuff we need to fix!”.
What you may not realize is that gender_check runs hundreds, sometimes thousands of times per day! but you never notice it since it always succeeds, while every single time we can’t help but be jarred by the onslaught of errors. Until we fix all of the problems our gender_check notifies us of, we just can’t live a normal happy life.—
Lydia_K (via haileygirlme)
This is too perfect not to reblog :)
Reblogging, because Trans and Unix.(via aje1980)
Hey Buck Angel you scam artist scumbag
20th November, Transgender Day of Remembrance
We’re fed up with reading the names of so many young trans* women and sadly a few trans* men this year who will never get to experience another birthday. Far too many of them who were killed this year were under the age of 35.
We’re fed up with contemplating the disturbing fact some of the names we’ll be reading during these TDOR memorials hadn’t even made it to age 21 yet.
We’re fed up in the African-American and Latin@ trans* communities of far too many of our people dying and our politicians, clergy and media pundits being cricket chirping silent about it.
We’re fed up with legislative inaction on the human rights laws it’s painfully obvious trans* people need at the local, state and federal levels as a wide range of people from trans exclusionary radical feminists to right-wing politicians gleefully spread disinformation and lies to roll back or retard our progress.
We’re fed up with our people dying and our people choosing suicide over life because you transphobic cisgender haters have made it so hostile and uncomfortable for them to live.
But sadly we’ll probably be gathering next November 20 at locations around the globe to read another 200 plus names of people killed because of anti-transgender violence.
Please click the link to read her post in its entirety. Today is Transgender Day of Remembrance. Monica Roberts spells out clearly and eloquently why this day exists and it is necessary.
4346) I find it interesting and disturbing that trans women make up less than one percent of the population yet we are the butt of the joke way more than 1% of the time. None of my cis friends understand why I’m uncomfortable with seeing jokes centered around “chicks with dicks” or “men in dresses”. It’s not only uncomfortable, it’s really overdone and even if it was funny it wouldn’t be anymore. I just want to watch one funny and entertaining show that doesn’t fall back on these tropes even once.
Facebook Gender Edit
They got back to me with more half assed apologies. (I may be being too hard on them but they really fucked up trying to co-op TDoR) They’ve said they’re tearing down the project and will probably issue a formal apology tomorrow(later today I guess).
I’m working on a reply that includes ideas for what they could do that wouldn’t be pulling focus off trans people and actually help some people out.
Right now that part of my reply is:
You want to help trans people? Then do something that benefits trans people. Find a charity that helps trans people and hold a fundraiser(make sure that the majority of the donations goes to trans people). Signal boost trans people doing fundraisers. Donate to trans youth homeless shelters. Organize a group to comment bomb and report transphobic articles and videos(make sure you know what you are talking about and if a trans person corrects you listen). Create a campaign to fight casual cissexism like equating vagina with woman or penis with man.
Don’t speak for us. Promote our voices. Make other cis people hear us speak.
Any other ideas?