Phone call to HR done!
Talked to HR. She put my mind to ease about the company supporting me. She was super understanding and didn’t pressure me to reveal my legal name or what store I work in. Now I need to talk to my manager and get things rolling locally.
From what she said I got the feel that she thought I was just starting transition. She talked about privacy and not everyone needing to know and taking time off and coming back as my “new” gender. A lot of “stealth” type phrasings.
I don’t anticipate needing time off. I’m known to almost everyone in the store so it’s not going to be private. I kind of don’t mind it not being private so long as everyone is respectful and doesn’t use my trans status against me.
Also, I’m pretty much physically transitioned as much as I want to be. I want to my beard lasered off but otherwise, I am me. There’s not going to be a big dramatic change between how I look now and how I look once I come out. I was kind of too nervous to talk about that to her.
I already get gendered as a woman by random people on a daily basis now while in guy drag. Once I can femme up my clothing choices and get my name on my name tag, and be able to openly id as a woman to people who question me; I think it’ll become more consistent.
OMG This is happening!
The HR manager emailed back. I was just about to make a post about how I was probably going to have to wait until Monday since I sent the email so late. Plus there’s a new store opening that I thought might have her occupied. Apparently not.
We so have a policy supporting transgendered individuals. Our company supports all individuals. Would you feel comfortable asking your Store Manager to review the policy with you? If not, perhaps we can speak?
Talking to her might be good but maybe I should just go to my manager since she is indicating that’s an option?
Why is this so hard?
I’ve made a new email address. I have a new email open. The HR manager’s email is entered. I’ve typed this in the body:
I am a trans woman working in one of your stores as a man currently. I am seeking info on company guidelines for employees transitioning on the job.
I just have to press send.
Why is this so hard?
I was in the men’s restroom at work(cause still not out) washing my hands and a man walked in. He stopped, spun in place, and walked out. I finished washing my hands and walked out. The guy was outside the door waiting to go in. It’s not the first time a guy has walked out of the restroom because he saw me and thought he had walked into the women’s restroom. Usually they walk back in once they check the door sign though.
I was helping a new employee and when I was done as I was walking away I think I heard her say, “Thank you si-ma’am.” I’m not sure but I want to think that’s what I heard.
"Hello, are you finding everything ok?" I asked a woman and she said, "Yes thank you ma’am."
I wonder how many other people that I never talk to see me as a woman? I feel comforted by these incidents. Like I maybe I have a chance at a “normal” life. I know that this is all kinds of internalized transphobia but I can’t help thinking it.